Children Are Our Biggest Teaches

Children are our biggest teaches, they make us stare ourselves in the face, we see the parts of us we really don’t want to see, they have us face our triggers without realising it and these are normally formed from our own childhood from an authority figure in our life!

We are not here to pull our kids into line and have them do what we tell them to! Be yes no I’ll do what you say! Yes there’s always consequences when they do something wrong but never punishment these are 2 very different outcomes.

When they have a tantrum or a meltdown they shouldn’t be told to stop carrying on, sit down and be quiet or if they don’t want to eat their dinner you made them then they are being rude!

When they are acting out and “being naughty” that you should pull them into line! When they are in a tantrum meeting them head on and trying to be the authority will only cause a reaction as big as a volcano! Especially if you have a big personality child.

Children are little people with their own personalities, children express how they feel at the time exactly by the way they are feeling, they have no filter or barriers like us adults do! It’s up to us to help them navigate their feelings and emotions!!!

So next time instead of meeting them head on in that authority head space, talk to them ask them questions about how they are feeling, ask them what is wrong, how can you help them and come up with a solution together! Sometimes all you need to do is sit in silence with them, they will calm down and open up. They may just be tired and need a cuddle which don’t we all at times!

Our little people teach us to deal with our own triggers, so ask yourself next time when they are doing something why is this really bothering me!

Honestly you will be surprised how much better the outcome is and you will keep that strong connection with them instead of causing disconnect and anger amongst all.

Much Love 💕

Beck x